Oh, Julie, I know. We did have to get my parents into a care facility, a place we knew and trusted, but we didn't forget them. They had more visitors than any of the other residents, which made me sad for the others. K
Joe - I have only been involved with two aged-care facilities. However, it is my assessment that the majority of residents never have visitors.
Visiting on Mothers' Day or Fathers' Day or birthdays is useless, and self-serving. Yes, they neither know you, nor recognise you. You go for who they WERE once-upon-a-time, not who they currently are.
These are beautiful portraits but thinking on the "we forget them." I remember once visiting an old folks home and talking to one of the ladies, asking about her family and a little tear rolled down her eye. She said she had no family, she didn't marry and had no children. As a childless person myself I know that perhaps this will be my destiny. You see, the only ones who really care to remember who you were are family.
You are a great sister. Sisters and brothers are rarely that dedicated. It's only children who you generally have any hope of counting on and they too can be fickle.
... however, you have the church and they are good at visiting, I must say.
I do not regard myself as a great sister. I made a promise to my father, that I would bring Barry 'in from the cold'. Also, there were circumstances in our upbringing where Ross and I were given advantages never offered to Barry, being the oldest.
Dad had a friend who visited, until Dad told him not to come any more because it was too much effort for the friend. Friendship must be a two-way street.
Ouch. I met a man in dad's nursing home who has been visiting his wife every day for the past I think 7 years. She has now lost speech and movement but he sits with her. I've seen more of my father in the past few months than in the past few years. Guilt maybe, I don't know.
Mum and Dad were lucky enough to still be living at home which was five minutes away from each of we three daughters, so this situation didn't arise..We saw Mum and Dad on a daily basis right up until the end. My heart breaks for older folk who have the opposite. Geez Julie, you do these portraits toooo well!
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Excellent portraits you clever girl. Witty caption too. Also a sad one.
Oh, Julie, I know. We did have to get my parents into a care facility, a place we knew and trusted, but we didn't forget them. They had more visitors than any of the other residents, which made me sad for the others.
K
it is good that at least there are others to care. it must be exhausting to become old.
The woman here has family. The man, noone.
There are a few folk in the facility who have visitors. Many have none. But this may have been their life prior to going into care.
Perhaps it is a case of reaping what you sow. My brother sees more people now than he did for the last 40 years. But that was his choice.
Now it is our choice ...
The photos are amazing but the truth of the matter is sad.
I do worry about what the years ahead will bring to my mum..
How sad for those who have no-one to visit them.
Joe - I have only been involved with two aged-care facilities. However, it is my assessment that the majority of residents never have visitors.
Visiting on Mothers' Day or Fathers' Day or birthdays is useless, and self-serving. Yes, they neither know you, nor recognise you. You go for who they WERE once-upon-a-time, not who they currently are.
These are beautiful portraits but thinking on the "we forget them." I remember once visiting an old folks home and talking to one of the ladies, asking about her family and a little tear rolled down her eye. She said she had no family, she didn't marry and had no children. As a childless person myself I know that perhaps this will be my destiny. You see, the only ones who really care to remember who you were are family.
You are a great sister. Sisters and brothers are rarely that dedicated. It's only children who you generally have any hope of counting on and they too can be fickle.
... however, you have the church and they are good at visiting, I must say.
I do not regard myself as a great sister. I made a promise to my father, that I would bring Barry 'in from the cold'. Also, there were circumstances in our upbringing where Ross and I were given advantages never offered to Barry, being the oldest.
Dad had a friend who visited, until Dad told him not to come any more because it was too much effort for the friend. Friendship must be a two-way street.
Ouch. I met a man in dad's nursing home who has been visiting his wife every day for the past I think 7 years. She has now lost speech and movement but he sits with her. I've seen more of my father in the past few months than in the past few years. Guilt maybe, I don't know.
Mum and Dad were lucky enough to still be living at home which was five minutes away from each of we three daughters, so this situation didn't arise..We saw Mum and Dad on a daily basis right up until the end. My heart breaks for older folk who have the opposite. Geez Julie, you do these portraits toooo well!
oh boy Julie.
I hate to think what my facial age will pray tell io years from now.
I have always was a gal with out wrinkles but ya I see them a coming.
If I can go with my look till I am 80 I will be blessed.
Yet we are told that every wrinkle we have is a blessing of love. We earned them.
I have no choice with the lines come with age.
Nice pictures of age will Weary them. Very close up. The lady seems happy.
Lets face it they are someones Parents, grandparents and greatParents. Right. Making room for the babes to come into the world.
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